While what may be deemed immodest by one person may be completely different to another, my question does not depend on what is 'immodesty'. Rather, if someone were to feel uncomfortable with what another person is wearing and they are within the ballpark of regarding someones' clothes as either too revealing or inappropriate for the workplace.
Apart from going to HR, is there an appropriate way to approach the other person to let them know tactfully?
My fear is such confrontation could easily be misconstrued as sexual harassment, or someone could use that in their embarrassment in retaliation.
If you are not a manager or even HR, is it inappropriate to approach someone about this?
( 5 months ago )
My initial thought was "The primary issue in this instance seems to be, 'I feel uncomfortable with what someone else is wearing.'" The statement "within the ballpark of regarding someone's clothes as either too revealing or inappropriate for the workplace" can be subjective, unless you can point to HR directives concerning workplace employee attire.
So without further details about exactly what the employee is wearing...no, I don't believe that there's any way for a non-managerial employee to mention this that won't generate bad blood, without somehow involving HR.
Personal rule of thumb: if it's a friend of mine, I'll let them know quietly that they've maybe got a little VPL (visible panty line / too tight pants.) If it's not a friend but they have primary sex characteristics visible, I'll discreetly alert them to the matter. If someone's violating some written dress code and I'm a manager, I'll either let them know, or I'll let their manager know. Beyond that, if I have a problem with something someone else is wearing, it's exactly that: "MY" problem. Not theirs.